From Nagging to Noticing

Connection and love, Routines, Setting limits, Tips & Tools
Ever feel like the nagging parent…? “Why is your backpack still in the hallway?” “Can’t you ever learn to put your dishes in the dishwasher?” We keep repeating ourselves thinking that this time he/she will get it, they’ll finally do what I want them to do! Perhaps if we could listen to ourselves or make a quick video, we might see and hear insanity in action. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results doesn’t get us anywhere and it doesn’t help the relationships we have with our children.
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Why are girls so mean to each other? What can I do to help?

Connection and love, Feelings and emotions, Mistakes yours and theirs, Tips & Tools
Nearly every girl is affected by girl bullying also known as relational aggression either by providing the hurt, receiving the hurt or watching it happen to others. Relational aggression has been a part of our girls’ world for a long time. It often happens between friends and can result in long-term, devastating hurt for those involved. As parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles and caregivers, we can support the girls we love through these heartbreaking times.
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The compasses and maps of parenting

Science and parenting, Tips & Tools

Contributed by Melanie Miller, M.Ed.

I had the recent opportunity to take my daughter and her friends orienteering. Orienteering is where you use a map, compass and your powers of observation to navigate through a course of pre-set checkpoints. It’s a great way to explore the outdoors, discover new hikes and learn some map and compass skills. At each checkpoint, you study your map, set your compass and begin the trek to next check point, watching for landmarks along the way.

As we moved along the trail, I thought about my own parenting and what might be my parenting compass; …

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Dinner, it can still connect a family

Dinner, it can still connect a family

Connection and love, Mutual Respect, Routines, Tips & Tools
Life wasn’t always perfect in my family, but it was those early dinners that anchored me to what is important in life and what is not. It’s why I work so hard to build connection times into my current family’s day, and dinner has become one of those times. It’s not easy to drift from a group when you’re meeting on a regular basis and you have a sense of connection to those present.
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Contributing Kids Become Capable Kids

Connection and love, Growing Responsibility, Motivation, Mutual Respect, Tips & Tools

Contributed by Melanie Miller, M.Ed.

Summer vacation is just around the corner, which could mean scheduling childcare, visits from Grandma and Grandpa, day camps and maybe even a summer camping trip for the family. It can all feel overwhelming during a time of year when we’re supposed to enjoy a little fun and relaxation.

This summer try something different. Summer is for families, so why not allow the whole family to be a part of the season’s planning?

Our children need to feel a sense of significance and can gain this by contributing to the greater good of the family. …

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