Gossip

Connection and love, Growing Responsibility, Mistakes yours and theirs, Mutual Respect, Setting limits, Tips & Tools

Contributed by Jody McVittie and Sahara Pirie

Sometimes listening in on conversations between your child and his or her friend while you are driving is a wonderful way to get a taste of the world from their point of view. But what do you do when the conversation you hear involves spreading rumors about other children or families? In fact last week you may have listened to your daughter’s painful stories of rumors being spread about her. What is going on? Didn’t she make the connection?

We’ve talked several times in these newsletters about how human beings move toward a …

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Family Work: Whose Job is It?

Growing Responsibility, Mutual Respect, Routines, Setting limits, Tips & Tools

Contributed by Jody McVittie, MD

When I grew up everyone in our family had jobs to do. Many of them were centered around our family dinners (setting the table, clearing the table, washing the dishes, sweeping the floor). Other family jobs included feeding pets and taking care of the garbage (this was in the days before recycling.) I don’t remember “loving” these “chores” but I do remember that they were part of what each of us did to contribute to the family.

Having children routinely contribute to the family helps them understand what it takes to make things happen in …

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Now Listen here Young Lady !!!!!!

Conflict, Feelings and emotions, Mistakes yours and theirs, Setting limits, Tips & Tools

Contributed by Melanie Miller, M.Ed., Certified Positive Discipline Trainer and School Counselor

Back talk, eye rolling, the glare, the, “Oh mom how can you be so stupid look”…. As our children grow older, their vocabulary has grown and their words, attitude and eye rolling can dig a little deeper. The next time the disrespect comes your way consider this…

Why Kids do it: • Maintain dignity: think they have been treated unfairly and “need” to defend themselves, • Claiming and testing their power (who am I really?), • Don’t know how to respectfully disagree, • To connect with you, • …

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