Growing Empathy

Connection and love, Self-care, Tips & Tools
Empathy is a word that gets used a lot these days. What IS it really? I like Brené Brown’s (of TED talk fame) definition: “the skill or ability to tap into our own experiences in order to connect with an experience someone is relating to us.” Empathy is what helps us sense that we are not alone in the world. It connects us to others and, as Brené Brown reminds us, it is the “antidote” to shame.
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Connection and love, Growing Responsibility, Mutual Respect, Tips & Tools

Contributed by Julietta Skoog

I am a talker by nature. I always have been. In high school I was on the debate team, in college I was the one hogging the hallway phone, and later in life I married a quiet, patient man whom I do not have to compete with to continue my babbling. You can imagine the shock when my daughter did not say a single word (not even mama!) until over 21 months old. My mother said it was because she couldn’t get a word in edgewise.

Fortunately this does not carry over into my day job. …

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Parenting with the Body in Mind

Feelings and emotions, Science and parenting, Self regulation, Self-care, Tips & Tools
We sure hear a lot these days about the brain – and brain science. When we hear the word “brain” most of us think of the soft stuff that is inside our skull. That is, in fact, our “brain.” But it turns out that our body is not just the thing that carries our brain around. Human nervous systems are incredibly complex and there is a lot of information exchanged between the brain and the rest of the body. We can use this information to help ourselves and to help our kids.
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Sibling Conflict…Can any Good Come of This?

Conflict, Growing Responsibility, Mistakes yours and theirs, Mutual Respect, Tips & Tools
As you prepare for the winter break and memorable family time; perhaps stuck in your house because of wet, cold weather, running out of activities to keep the kids occupied, counting the days until school starts again…..What will your children be learning from each other? Use the normal conflict of daily life to teach your children important life skills.
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Now Listen here Young Lady !!!!!!

Conflict, Feelings and emotions, Mistakes yours and theirs, Setting limits, Tips & Tools

Contributed by Melanie Miller, M.Ed., Certified Positive Discipline Trainer and School Counselor

Back talk, eye rolling, the glare, the, “Oh mom how can you be so stupid look”…. As our children grow older, their vocabulary has grown and their words, attitude and eye rolling can dig a little deeper. The next time the disrespect comes your way consider this…

Why Kids do it: • Maintain dignity: think they have been treated unfairly and “need” to defend themselves, • Claiming and testing their power (who am I really?), • Don’t know how to respectfully disagree, • To connect with you, • …

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Why Kids Lie and What to do About It

Growing Responsibility, Mistakes yours and theirs, Mutual Respect, Tips & Tools

Contributed by Melanie Miller, M.Ed.

Lying is one of those behaviors that can certainly bring up a lot of strong feelings in parents. Understanding why kids lie and what we can do as parents to decrease lying, and promote honesty, can be a welcome relief! The following information is from a TV interview with Certified Positive Discipline Trainer, Dodi Blomberg (www.dodieblomberg.com) and the book Positive Discipline A-Z; 1001 solutions to Everyday Parenting Problems by Jane Nelsen Ed.D. et.al.

Why do children lie? ➢ They feel trapped ➢ Are afraid of punishment ➢ Scared of rejection ➢ Feel threatened ➢ Think …

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