Time-in for Children: Re-gathering Response-ability

Connection and love, Feelings and emotions, Growing Responsibility, Mistakes yours and theirs, Self regulation, Tips & Tools
Children (and all of us) do better when they feel better. Our culture tends to want to “teach” children who are misbehaving by having them feel worse “so they’ll learn not to do it again.” We forget that if the child had felt included, important, or weren’t so tired or hungry she likely would have handled the situation well to begin with. Instead of teaching by hurting the goal of a time-in is to help our child learn how to regain their “better” sense of self so that she can come back to the situation and meet the challenge. With practice, children get better at “re-gathering” by themselves. Remember, this kind of “feeling better” is not happiness - it is a sense of being able to respond (be response-able) from a centered place.
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Why Kids Lie and What to do About It

Growing Responsibility, Mistakes yours and theirs, Mutual Respect, Tips & Tools

Contributed by Melanie Miller, M.Ed.

Lying is one of those behaviors that can certainly bring up a lot of strong feelings in parents. Understanding why kids lie and what we can do as parents to decrease lying, and promote honesty, can be a welcome relief! The following information is from a TV interview with Certified Positive Discipline Trainer, Dodi Blomberg (www.dodieblomberg.com) and the book Positive Discipline A-Z; 1001 solutions to Everyday Parenting Problems by Jane Nelsen Ed.D. et.al.

Why do children lie? ➢ They feel trapped ➢ Are afraid of punishment ➢ Scared of rejection ➢ Feel threatened ➢ Think …

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