Reconnecting With Joy

Connection and love, Tips & Tools

August can be a time of big transitions. The days are getting shorter and in many families, the first preparations for school are beginning.  It can be really busy!  Sometimes when there is a lot to be accomplished, adults in the family take their responsibilities seriously and focus on getting things done. Many of us show up as “human doings” instead of “human beings”. This is an invitation to make sure there is time each day to pause and connect with your children and what is really important. You can fit connection into your day pretty easily – but it …

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Respect or Obedience?

Mutual Respect, Tips & Tools

I’m sure you have days where you wish that your children would just do what you told them. No fuss. No complaints or delays. Just do it. And when they don’t do it, you might feel disrespected, as if it is your children’s job to obey you. And yet, if your partner treated you that way – expecting compliance for everything he or she wanted in the moment – what would you be feeling? My hunch is that you might feel disrespected. As a culture we struggle to distinguish respect and obedience.

Obedience means following the directions of an authority …

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Is It Really Disrespect?

Mutual Respect, Tips & Tools

We’ve been having a lot of conversations about respect at schools this month. Educators are telling us that students don’t “respect” them. When we drill down a little further, the story is that students are not obeying adults. Are respect and obedience the same thing? We don’t think so! Interestingly, one of the most common complaints from students who have been sent to the office for misbehavior is, “My teacher didn’t respect me.”

Obedience means following the directions of an authority figure. The motivation is often based on fear. The result is compliance.

Respect means showing consideration for the rights, …

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