Desarrollar conexión

Connection and love, Feelings and emotions, Tips & Tools

Durante este tiempo de ‘quédese en casa, manténgase seguro’ muchos de nosotros están pasando tiempo con nuestras familias y queridos. Pero con tanto compañerismo, ¿estamos sintiendo más conectados los unos con los otros?

En Sound Discipline ensenamos, apoyamos, y conversamos sobre conexión con los educadores, los lideres de la escuela, y las familias porque ser conectado hace la aula, la aprendizaje, y la vida más enriquecedora y seguro. Cuando un niño falta la conexión, lo puede manifestar como problemas con mal comportamiento: buscando atención, bullying, o rechazo a participar. A veces los adultos puedan experimentar una falta de conexión y …

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Building Connection

Connection and love, Feelings and emotions, Tips & Tools

During this time of ‘stay home, stay safe,’ many of us are spending lots of time at home with our families and loved ones. But with all this togetherness, are we feeling more connected to one another?

At Sound Discipline, we teach, coach, and talk about connection with educators, school leaders and families because being connected makes the classroom, learning, and life more vital, enriching and safe. When connection is missing for a child, it may manifest as a behavior issue: attention seeking, bullying, or unwillingness to participate. Adults may experience a lack of connection as exhaustion, joylessness, yelling, or …

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Repair is Powerful in the Classroom

Conflict, Connection and love, Mutual Respect, Tips & Tools

 

We all have ways of dealing with mistakes based on our life experiences. Some of us can embrace them as a chance to fix and try to do better next time, and others struggle to acknowledge them. The reality is that human beings make mistakes. It is part of learning and being in community together. When we create spaces in schools for students to repair, they learn that  mistakes are opportunities. Respectful relationships between students and teachers and students and their peers are stronger and sustainable  if we know how to reconnect after making mistakes. When a repair is …

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Repair is a Powerful Tool for Learning and Connection

Conflict, Connection and love, Mutual Respect, Tips & Tools

 

As parents we can feel a lot of pressure to do things ‘right’ and have our kids be ‘happy’ all the time. That’s just not possible, and there is brain science proving that mistakes are a powerful learning opportunity for adults as well as children. Dr. Daniel Siegel and Dr. Tina Faye Bryson, in their new book The Power of Showing Up, encourage us to embrace the mistakes we make. The process of being present with our kids, solving problems and making a repair, can bring us closer.

Parents may think that we shouldn’t apologize to children, or …

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In the Classroom, Kindness = Connection + Caring

Connection and love, Feelings and emotions, Tips & Tools

 

Many of us entered teaching believing in our abilities to be consistently kind. In reality, vacillating between kindness and being authoritarian is a common cycle, especially when class sizes and challenging students make the job feel overwhelming. 

Kindness and compassion from a teacher are a powerful model for our students. Kindness does not have to mean being wishy-washy and letting the classroom descend into chaos or being overly sweet and positive. It means respecting the student AND the routines, expectations, and agreements of the classroom…as well as ourselves. 

How can we as teachers do this…maintaining a firmness that allows …

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For Parents, a New Look at Kindness

Connection and love, Feelings and emotions, Tips & Tools

Is it possible to be a kind parent while also holding fast to family agreements, values and expectations?  It is. Sometimes we go back and forth between being kind OR firm with our kids. Actually, being kind is being connected to your children, while holding them accountable to the expectations of the family. In this month celebrating love, we invite you to look at ways to practice  kindness and connection. Here are some ideas to get you started:

Being present is an act of kindness: 15 minutes of scheduled one-on-one time every day. Children need to feel a sense of …

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Brain Science to Supercharge Your Teacher Toolkit

Brain Science, In the News, Tips & Tools

We are drawn to teaching because we want to make a difference in the lives of children. With the creation of new technologies and innovative research, the field of neurobiology has become an exciting new frontier, offering a clearer understanding of what works for the healthy development of the whole child. This understanding sheds light on what effective teaching looks like. Here are a few brain building tips to optimize your teaching efforts:

Connect, connect, connect.

Strong relationships build strong learning. When a child perceives that a relationship is mutually respectful and that there is trust, oxytocin is released. The …

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Brain Science Can Help Us to Become Better Parents

Brain Science, In the News, Tips & Tools

With the creation of new technologies and innovative research, brain science has become an exciting new frontier, offering verifiable support for the strategies and practices of authoritative approaches like Positive Discipline.  What constitutes “effective parenting” is becoming less controversial through research in the field of neurobiology, illuminating our path as parents. Here are a few  ideas from recent research that support effective and connected parenting:

Model what you want your child to learn.

With the work of Dr Marco Iacoboni and others, we now know that people are hardwired to mimic what we see through a complex set of …

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Teaching and Modeling Self-Regulation Skills in the Classroom

Self regulation, Tips & Tools

Children are entering school with less developed self-regulation skills than in decades past.  More children have experienced trauma, are emotionally fragile, and may be unable to control their emotional responses and act out in physical ways when they are upset. The good news is that through recent brain science research, we understand the physiology of strong emotion and have discovered that self-regulation skills can be learned at any age.

Self-regulation is the ability to recognize, manage and modulate one’s own emotions and emotional responses and behaviors. This set of skills may be the most important tools your students learn. Recent …

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The best gifts we can give our kids…self-regulation skills

Self regulation, Tips & Tools

Self-regulation is the ability to recognize, manage and modulate one’s own emotions, emotional reactions and behaviors. These skills may be the most important tools that your child learns, with many recent studies determining that a child’s emotional intelligence, or “EQ”, is more important than their “IQ” for future success and happiness. Brain science has revealed that self-regulation skills can be learned at any age. As parents, we are our children’s most important self-regulation teachers. 

Brain science explains what happens to us when we feel as though we have “lost it” and are overtaken by a big emotion.  The amygdala, the …

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