Belonging Through a Culture of Dignity

Belonging Through a Culture of Dignity

Connection and love, Featured, Feelings and emotions, Point of View

“Inclusion is not an intellectual thing. It has to be visceral. Words like diversity, equity, inclusion have no meaning at all unless we make it personal, unless we connect these themes to our life story and operationalize them in the actions of our daily lives.” – Jonathan Joseph, Sound Discipline Board of Directors.

In July, Sound Discipline Board Members Jonathan Joseph and Debbie Symonds worked together to design an equity curriculum for the Sound Discipline Board around a year-long study of the book Belonging Through a Culture of Dignity: The Keys to Successful Equity Implementation by Floyd Cobb and John …

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Sartori Elementary Practices Repair and Problem Solving

Featured, Feelings and emotions, Inspiring Stories

Our November Champions are the staff team from Sartori Elementary School, for the many creative ways they’ve been integrating Positive Discipline into their school practices this fall. In September, they designated their first lab days for Social & Emotional Learning (SEL). Grade level teaching teams explored goals for class meetings, then planned a Positive Discipline lesson focusing on structures, talk moves and questions to help students be sense makers. They tried out their lesson together in two classrooms, with time allotted for the teaching team to reflect after each one. The teamwork and the curiosity of the lab model …

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7 Ideas for Learning About Feelings

Feelings and emotions, Tips & Tools

Learning to understand, name and express feelings is important for self-regulation. Developing this skill helps children feel better about themselves, form healthy relationships, and navigate life’s challenges with more resiliency.

When we name our feelings, we’re accessing the thinking part of the brain. This act of labeling the feeling gives us that little bit of space from the feeling itself, which helps calm down the emotional center of the brain. This integration in the brain helps us makes sense of our experiences so that we can respond rather than react. Dan Siegel explains this integration, Name it to Tame it, …

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Desarrollar conexión

Connection and love, Feelings and emotions, Tips & Tools

Durante este tiempo de ‘quédese en casa, manténgase seguro’ muchos de nosotros están pasando tiempo con nuestras familias y queridos. Pero con tanto compañerismo, ¿estamos sintiendo más conectados los unos con los otros?

En Sound Discipline ensenamos, apoyamos, y conversamos sobre conexión con los educadores, los lideres de la escuela, y las familias porque ser conectado hace la aula, la aprendizaje, y la vida más enriquecedora y seguro. Cuando un niño falta la conexión, lo puede manifestar como problemas con mal comportamiento: buscando atención, bullying, o rechazo a participar. A veces los adultos puedan experimentar una falta de conexión y …

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Building Connection

Connection and love, Feelings and emotions, Tips & Tools

During this time of ‘stay home, stay safe,’ many of us are spending lots of time at home with our families and loved ones. But with all this togetherness, are we feeling more connected to one another?

At Sound Discipline, we teach, coach, and talk about connection with educators, school leaders and families because being connected makes the classroom, learning, and life more vital, enriching and safe. When connection is missing for a child, it may manifest as a behavior issue: attention seeking, bullying, or unwillingness to participate. Adults may experience a lack of connection as exhaustion, joylessness, yelling, or …

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In the Classroom, Kindness = Connection + Caring

Connection and love, Feelings and emotions, Tips & Tools

 

Many of us entered teaching believing in our abilities to be consistently kind. In reality, vacillating between kindness and being authoritarian is a common cycle, especially when class sizes and challenging students make the job feel overwhelming. 

Kindness and compassion from a teacher are a powerful model for our students. Kindness does not have to mean being wishy-washy and letting the classroom descend into chaos or being overly sweet and positive. It means respecting the student AND the routines, expectations, and agreements of the classroom…as well as ourselves. 

How can we as teachers do this…maintaining a firmness that allows …

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For Parents, a New Look at Kindness

Connection and love, Feelings and emotions, Tips & Tools

Is it possible to be a kind parent while also holding fast to family agreements, values and expectations?  It is. Sometimes we go back and forth between being kind OR firm with our kids. Actually, being kind is being connected to your children, while holding them accountable to the expectations of the family. In this month celebrating love, we invite you to look at ways to practice  kindness and connection. Here are some ideas to get you started:

Being present is an act of kindness: 15 minutes of scheduled one-on-one time every day. Children need to feel a sense of …

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Instilling joy and contentment

Connection and love, Feelings and emotions, Tips & Tools

When we ask educators what they hope for in their students when they enter adulthood, they usually respond with a long list of life skills which include a sense of connection, peace, and contentment. Even though you have huge responsibility for teaching academic subjects, as educators you also value the human being doing the learning. There are many things you do in the classroom that invite both a joy in learning and a sense of joy and contentment in life.

  • Share your joy in teaching. Not every moment is joyful, but you didn’t take on this job for the
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Planting Seeds of Contentment

Connection and love, Feelings and emotions, Tips & Tools

What helps a child grow into a happy, content adult? Happiness is the result of strong social emotional health that is built up over time. It starts with meeting your child’s need to be soothed as an infant, helping them manage “big” feelings and by modeling and supporting a sense of hope and optimism as they deal with the challenges and joys of childhood. . How we look at the world and our place in it, influences our degree of contentment. We can encourage our children to be happy.

  • Model practices which create happiness: positive self-talk, celebrating gratitude, appreciating
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    Teaching Tenaciousness

    Feelings and emotions, Motivation, Resilience, Tips & Tools

    Every teacher has some students who seem eager to lean into challenges or take on new things – and other students who do the opposite. They seem pull away from taking risks and struggle to manage the frustrating feelings that naturally arise when learning new ideas or tasks. Growing the internal capacity to “lean into learning” helps students thrive in school. Here are some ideas:

    • Teach some brain science. Explain that the process of learning is hard brain work – and some people are more sensitive to the physical sensations of that kind of work. You are actually growing new
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