The COVID One-Year Mark: Let’s not go back

The COVID One-Year Mark: Let’s not go back

Brain Science, Connection and love, In the News, Point of View, Resilience

 

We will not go back to normal. Normal never was. Our pre-corona existence was not normal other than we normalized greed, inequity, exhaustion, depletion, extraction, disconnection, confusion, rage, hoarding, hate, and lack. We should not long to return, my friends. We are being given the opportunity to stitch a new garment. One that fits all of humanity and nature.

— Sonya Renee Taylor

On March 5 of last year, Sound Discipline’s leadership team met to make a COVID contingency plan. A 2-week school closure had just been announced. We drew all over a whiteboard, planning for three scenarios; 1) …

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Belonging Through a Culture of Dignity

Belonging Through a Culture of Dignity

Connection and love, Featured, Feelings and emotions, Point of View

“Inclusion is not an intellectual thing. It has to be visceral. Words like diversity, equity, inclusion have no meaning at all unless we make it personal, unless we connect these themes to our life story and operationalize them in the actions of our daily lives.” – Jonathan Joseph, Sound Discipline Board of Directors.

In July, Sound Discipline Board Members Jonathan Joseph and Debbie Symonds worked together to design an equity curriculum for the Sound Discipline Board around a year-long study of the book Belonging Through a Culture of Dignity: The Keys to Successful Equity Implementation by Floyd Cobb and John …

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La reparación es una poderosa herramienta para el aprendizaje y la conexión

Conflict, Connection and love, Mutual Respect, Tips & Tools

 

Como padres podemos sentir mucha presión para hacer las cosas “bien” y hacer que nuestros hijos sean ‘felices’ todo el tiempo. Eso simplemente no es posible, y hay ciencia del cerebro que demuestra que los errores son una poderosa oportunidad de aprendizaje tanto para adultos como para niños. El Dr. Daniel Siegel y la Dra. Tina Faye Bryson, en su nuevo libro El poder de aparecer, nos animan a aceptar los errores que cometemos. El proceso de estar presentes con nuestros hijos, resolver problemas y hacer una reparación, puede acercarnos.

 

Los padres pueden pensar que no debemos …

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Desarrollar conexión

Connection and love, Feelings and emotions, Tips & Tools

Durante este tiempo de ‘quédese en casa, manténgase seguro’ muchos de nosotros están pasando tiempo con nuestras familias y queridos. Pero con tanto compañerismo, ¿estamos sintiendo más conectados los unos con los otros?

En Sound Discipline ensenamos, apoyamos, y conversamos sobre conexión con los educadores, los lideres de la escuela, y las familias porque ser conectado hace la aula, la aprendizaje, y la vida más enriquecedora y seguro. Cuando un niño falta la conexión, lo puede manifestar como problemas con mal comportamiento: buscando atención, bullying, o rechazo a participar. A veces los adultos puedan experimentar una falta de conexión y …

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Building Connection

Connection and love, Feelings and emotions, Tips & Tools

During this time of ‘stay home, stay safe,’ many of us are spending lots of time at home with our families and loved ones. But with all this togetherness, are we feeling more connected to one another?

At Sound Discipline, we teach, coach, and talk about connection with educators, school leaders and families because being connected makes the classroom, learning, and life more vital, enriching and safe. When connection is missing for a child, it may manifest as a behavior issue: attention seeking, bullying, or unwillingness to participate. Adults may experience a lack of connection as exhaustion, joylessness, yelling, or …

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Repair is Powerful in the Classroom

Conflict, Connection and love, Mutual Respect, Tips & Tools

 

We all have ways of dealing with mistakes based on our life experiences. Some of us can embrace them as a chance to fix and try to do better next time, and others struggle to acknowledge them. The reality is that human beings make mistakes. It is part of learning and being in community together. When we create spaces in schools for students to repair, they learn that  mistakes are opportunities. Respectful relationships between students and teachers and students and their peers are stronger and sustainable  if we know how to reconnect after making mistakes. When a repair is …

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Repair is a Powerful Tool for Learning and Connection

Conflict, Connection and love, Mutual Respect, Tips & Tools

 

As parents we can feel a lot of pressure to do things ‘right’ and have our kids be ‘happy’ all the time. That’s just not possible, and there is brain science proving that mistakes are a powerful learning opportunity for adults as well as children. Dr. Daniel Siegel and Dr. Tina Faye Bryson, in their new book The Power of Showing Up, encourage us to embrace the mistakes we make. The process of being present with our kids, solving problems and making a repair, can bring us closer.

Parents may think that we shouldn’t apologize to children, or …

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In the Classroom, Kindness = Connection + Caring

Connection and love, Feelings and emotions, Tips & Tools

 

Many of us entered teaching believing in our abilities to be consistently kind. In reality, vacillating between kindness and being authoritarian is a common cycle, especially when class sizes and challenging students make the job feel overwhelming. 

Kindness and compassion from a teacher are a powerful model for our students. Kindness does not have to mean being wishy-washy and letting the classroom descend into chaos or being overly sweet and positive. It means respecting the student AND the routines, expectations, and agreements of the classroom…as well as ourselves. 

How can we as teachers do this…maintaining a firmness that allows …

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For Parents, a New Look at Kindness

Connection and love, Feelings and emotions, Tips & Tools

Is it possible to be a kind parent while also holding fast to family agreements, values and expectations?  It is. Sometimes we go back and forth between being kind OR firm with our kids. Actually, being kind is being connected to your children, while holding them accountable to the expectations of the family. In this month celebrating love, we invite you to look at ways to practice  kindness and connection. Here are some ideas to get you started:

Being present is an act of kindness: 15 minutes of scheduled one-on-one time every day. Children need to feel a sense of …

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PCEs and ACEs

Connection and love, In the News, Tips & Tools

There is a lot of information now on the impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and how they change the brain in ways that make learning more challenging. Emerging also are studies which show how, combined with Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs), children can grow to be sensitive, strong, and capable adults. Building PCEs for the students in your classroom can be done with intentional small shifts in thinking and practice.

Myths about PCEs:

  • It is about happiness. Of course, we feel better when our students feel better. That leads us to wanting to make them happy. It turns out though,
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