La reparación es una poderosa herramienta para el aprendizaje y la conexión

Conflict, Connection and love, Mutual Respect, Tips & Tools

 

Como padres podemos sentir mucha presión para hacer las cosas “bien” y hacer que nuestros hijos sean ‘felices’ todo el tiempo. Eso simplemente no es posible, y hay ciencia del cerebro que demuestra que los errores son una poderosa oportunidad de aprendizaje tanto para adultos como para niños. El Dr. Daniel Siegel y la Dra. Tina Faye Bryson, en su nuevo libro El poder de aparecer, nos animan a aceptar los errores que cometemos. El proceso de estar presentes con nuestros hijos, resolver problemas y hacer una reparación, puede acercarnos.

 

Los padres pueden pensar que no debemos …

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Repair is Powerful in the Classroom

Conflict, Connection and love, Mutual Respect, Tips & Tools

 

We all have ways of dealing with mistakes based on our life experiences. Some of us can embrace them as a chance to fix and try to do better next time, and others struggle to acknowledge them. The reality is that human beings make mistakes. It is part of learning and being in community together. When we create spaces in schools for students to repair, they learn that  mistakes are opportunities. Respectful relationships between students and teachers and students and their peers are stronger and sustainable  if we know how to reconnect after making mistakes. When a repair is …

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Repair is a Powerful Tool for Learning and Connection

Conflict, Connection and love, Mutual Respect, Tips & Tools

 

As parents we can feel a lot of pressure to do things ‘right’ and have our kids be ‘happy’ all the time. That’s just not possible, and there is brain science proving that mistakes are a powerful learning opportunity for adults as well as children. Dr. Daniel Siegel and Dr. Tina Faye Bryson, in their new book The Power of Showing Up, encourage us to embrace the mistakes we make. The process of being present with our kids, solving problems and making a repair, can bring us closer.

Parents may think that we shouldn’t apologize to children, or …

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Family Meetings

Conflict, Growing Responsibility, Tips & Tools

Family meetings are a powerful tool to build the life skills that we want our children to have.  The family meeting process helps children learn good listening skills, cooperation, mutual respect, and effective solution-focused problem solving.  The consistent practice of gathering as a family, giving and receiving compliments, and solving problems helps families run more smoothly and builds family connections.

Start by engaging your family in the practice of having regular (weekly) meetings:

  • Teach and practice compliments. Have every family member share something that they appreciate about each of the other family members and themselves. (This alone takes practice!)
  • Do
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Why Do They Misbehave When We Are in a Hurry?

Conflict, Connection and love, Self-care, Tips & Tools
Misbehavior isn’t random. You already know that. Kids often misbehave at very inconvenient times! It happens particularly when we, the parent figures, are in a hurry. It is a consistent (and predictable) pattern. Are they out to “get” you? Well, yes and no. They are not out to “get” you in the sense that you will be bothered, annoyed, trapped or otherwise challenged. They are out to “get” you in the sense that they are seeking a connection with you.
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What is your Request?

Conflict, Growing Responsibility, Mutual Respect, Tips & Tools
When I first started teaching parenting classes, I had a couple who came up with the idea of asking their daughters, “What is your request?” They were parents of preschoolers and I’m sure their days were filled with hearing what their children didn’t want to do, or didn’t want to eat. It was such a simple solution and once again, I, as the parent educator, got to learn something from the parents in my class. I brought this new parenting tool home with me and found that it was a wonderful way to communicate with my two children.
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What Kind of Bystander are You?

Conflict, Mistakes yours and theirs, Setting limits, Tips & Tools, Uncategorized
Imagine that your daughter and her friends are sitting hanging out in the family room – talking and texting and you hear, “Oh that is so gay!” Do you feel uncomfortable but remain silent because you don't want to embarrass your daughter? Do you wait and talk about it in private afterwards? What do you do when you hear Uncle Alfred make a derogatory comment about women or children or people of a different race or sexual orientation? Do you just say to yourself or your children, "That's Alfred, he is a little off color?" What do you think that is teaching our children about how to be an effective bystander? What could do you do instead?
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